EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCE

Don't you get it, John, I think I crave some kind of dependency and that makes me feel like a failure as a woman ! - Ally Mc Beal

It rarely gets admitted by independent women, but we in different moments [i.e. thirdwheeling, listening to a love song, watching a sappy flick] long for emotional dependence once in a while. Sometimes, it's really nice to be fragile just to we'll feel that someone is willing to be strong for us. It's true that dependence is a sign of weakness but I guess we want to be weak once in a while, to be babied and to be treated as the "weaker sex" not because we like being looked down upon but because women are so manipulative and the only way for men [who most of the time are insensitive] to step up is by us acting as damsels in distress.

Emotional dependence is a coping mechanism for us to not feel disappointed.

I miss emotional dependence, i miss being weak because I know that someone's going to hug me, hold my hand, or make a funny face for me to make me realize that things are gonna be better, that they'll fall into their proper places, in the future. I miss doing silly things with someone willing to be silly with me, I miss being woken up by a mushy good morning call from someone who just wants me to wake up being cheered up by him. I miss being held, being whispered to, being surprised with sudden moments of sappiness. I miss receiving love letters, flowers, going to dinner, having coffee, having deep conversations involving dreams and plans in the future. I miss waking up with a smile, reminded of how he kissed me goodnight the last time. I miss being called sweetie, angel, baby, cupcake and anything that only a person in love can even bear to utter.

I miss emotional dependence.