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Hitch: Basic Principles

"... no woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today!" Now, she might say "This is a really bad time for me," or something like "I just need some space," or my personal favorite "I'm really into my career right now." You believe that? Neither does she.

You know why? 'Cause she's lying to you, that's why. You understand me? Lying! It's not a bad time for her. She doesn't need any space. And she may be into her career, but what she's really saying is "Uh, get away from me now," or possibly "Try harder, stupid," but which one is it? 60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you're saying ain't coming out of your mouth. Of course she's going to lie to you! She's a nice person! She doesn't want to hurt your feelings!

What else she going to say? She doesn't even know you... yet. Luckily, the fact is that just like the rest of us, even a beautiful woman doesn't know what she wants until she sees it, and that's where I come in. My job is to open her eyes. Basic Principles - no matter what, no matter when, no matter who... any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet; he just needs the right broom."

-HITCH

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SOMETHING BORROWED: A Discussion



"We need to discuss."

That was the definite conclusion that we all came up with after watching the very divisive movie that is Something Borrowed. We can outline it into a number of chapters, in my mind the issues at hand are the following:

  1. Is he or is he not into you.
  2. Would you REALLY fall for your best friend’s guy?
  3. Should a girl tell a guy how she feels at the risk of being too aggressive?
  4. Should you fall for a really good friend at the risk of losing the friendship?

Let’s start with issue number one…


CHAPTER ONE
Is he or is he not into you? A.K.A. It shouldn’t be that hard to figure out.

I didn't think someone like you could like someone like me,” -Rachel, Something Borrowed


We’ve seen it happen a million of times before. You spend time with a person, really have fun and spend those precious moments before you sleep, thinking, “Hey, he could really be into me too!” But that only consumes a few minutes, heck, a few seconds of your thinking time. For the rest of the night, you over exhaust yourself rationalizing and keeping your feet, and your heart pretty grounded. You start to think of reasons why he can’t like you. I mean, for a logical and emotionally beaten up person, you can think of an infinitely many reasons why he is only being a friend. Plus, this whole self esteem issue just can’t be shaken off, completely. I mean, for a woman lawyer, it is true that we have such high standards. Although we’d always dismiss this hypothesis by saying that we only want to end up with a decent guy, how we define this decent guy is a totally different story.

So, that’s where the problem starts, for someone who has high standards, we rarely get attracted to regular guys, and these non-regular guys, we feel, may be out of our league.  When we feel a connection, or when we feel that it may be safe to start assuming that there could be mutual attraction, you can depend on the fact that we have already jumped the gun by being our suspicious selves. We work hard to be THE GOOD FRIEND. Yes, we find safety in that not-so-comfortable net that is being in the FRIEND ZONE.

Then, a hot girl comes along, the fun, free-spirited one - she may be a friend, an acquaintance who just happens to be there to constantly remind us geeks that well, our guy can do better. I will let you in on a little secret - we also are easily discouraged. When we feel that the object of our affection has turned his attention to a hot woman, even for a millisecond, we act like it’s absolutely okay, like we never are offended or hurt – but believe you me, hell breaks loose in our hearts and minds. That’s when we start withdrawing ourselves from the conversation and let the hotter woman take center stage. We can be the most competitive bunch in a legal court, but we are such sissies in that court that is ruled by the heart.

Then we let it pass. We move on thinking that it was not worth fighting for in the first place. I mean, really, wouldn’t a guy do everything, and I mean everything to make the woman that he likes know that he likes her? There shouldn’t be any “Are you okay with this?”-like questions. If he really liked me, and even if I let him talk freely with the hotter girl, he should have reached for my hand to at least assure me that it is me whom he’d want to talk with. He should have sat beside me and poured all his attention on me, despite the hotter girl’s persistence.

In the ideal world, I guess. 
This is why you should never, ever get your hopes up. This is why you should see the glass as half empty. So when the whole thing spills, you aren’t as devastated."— Emily Giffin (Something Borrowed)

-To be continued-


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Of Turning Tables, Eleven Minutes and Breakfast at Tiffany's


Keeping passion at bay or surrendering blindly to it – which of these two attitudes is the least destructive? I don’t know.

-Eleven Minutes

Let me talk about that thin line between being insensitive and careful. When I was younger, I must say that I did not have restraint. I will assume wholeheartedly, fall in love fully, and get my heart broken carelessly. But that’s just it, right? In the end, I realized that you break your heart when you’re careless, when you do not protect yourself above all, and when you allow yourself to freefall, not knowing what lies beneath.

What do they expect? Having chosen adventure, shouldn’t they be prepared to go the whole way? Or do they think that the intelligent thing to do would be to avoid the ups and downs and spend all their time on a carousel, going round and round on the spot?
-Eleven Minutes

Through the years, I have learned the art of being suspicious, of finding the security of friendship and companionship more logical to seek over wild and no holds barred love, and have mastered the game of not giving meaning to things that in the past might happily make me jump into the conclusion that someone is into me. I have, at present, acquired the label of being insensitive, or more appropriately, of being “manhid.” I don’t mind, really. It’s more peaceful this way. Yet, there is a catch. Look where it got me. It may be summed up with one statement that has been a constant running joke in our wee hour conversations, and drinking sprees, “Sinong mag-isa ngayon?”

You know what's wrong with you, Miss Whoever-you-are? You're chicken, you've got no guts. You're afraid to stick out your chin and say, "Okay, life's a fact, people do fall in love, people do belong to each other, because that's the only chance anybody's got for real happiness." You call yourself a free spirit, a "wild thing," and you're terrified somebody's gonna stick you in a cage. Well baby, you're already in that cage. You built it yourself. And it's not bounded in the west by Tulip, Texas, or in the east by Somali-land. It's wherever you go. Because no matter where you run, you just end up running into yourself.  -Breakfast at Tiffany’s



So now, I am at a crossroad. I don’t think I can ever go back to being careless, especially since at this point in my life, I cannot commit as many mistakes as I could when what was at stake was at a minimum. On the other hand, it sometimes makes me wonder if this path of “kamanhidan” (insensitivity) suits me well, or has just created more problems instead of resolving past issues. The only wonderful thing is that I don’t get hurt anymore.

Everything tells me that I am about to make a wrong decision, but making mistakes is just a part of life. What does the world want of me? Does it want me to take no risks, to go back where I came from because I didn’t have the courage to say “yes” to life?
-Eleven Minutes


It could be why I like Adele’s Turning Tables, the first time I heard it. I can relate. I don’t let anyone close enough to hurt me anymore. And in the process, I don’t let anyone close enough to love me too. So, the questions remain…


Is it really time to say goodbye to turning tables? Or should we just go ahead and make the most out of them?

Really important meetings are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other. Generally speaking, these meetings occur when we reach a limit, when we need to die and be reborn emotionally. These meetings are waiting for us, but more often than not, we avoid them happening. If we are desperate, though, if we have nothing to lose, or if we are full of enthusiasm for life, then the unknown reveals itself, and our universe changes direction.
-Eleven Minutes

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What would you do when you run out of things to give?


Excerpt from Jessica Zafra's "Aunt Janey’s Old-Fashioned Agony Column # 10: A return on your emotional investment"

"If you wish to win someone’s affections, never give that person gifts for the purpose of making him grateful to you. Gratitude can become a very heavy obligation and often leads to resentment. Whoever employs such a tactic immediately becomes transparent and will be prone to abuse. You can also be perceived as manipulative and you will definitely be detested and your gifts, no matter how grand, will be viewed with distaste, unless your beneficiary is as callous as I am. Generosity is finding joy in giving without expecting anything in return. Generosity begets friendship and even love. In romance, spreading your arms and legs and baking the man’s bread in your oven will not bind that man to you. Marriage will not help. He must want to be with you because of who you are and not because you give him nice things. What would you do when you run out of things to give?"



"You know that thing that when God closes a door, he opens a window? Well, sometimes out of nowhere he’ll throw you one better. He’ll take a whole wall down... "
-GLEE 2.08 "FURT"

Mang yari Lamang

Mang yari Lamang
by Rico Abelardo

Mang yari lamang ay tumayo
ang mga nagma hal
nang makita ng lahat
ang mukha ng pag– ibig
ipa malas ang tamis
ng malalim na pagkakau nawaan
sa mga mal abo ang paningin
mang yari lamang ay tumayo rin
ang mga nagma hal at nasawi
nang makita ng lahat
ang mga sugat ng isang bayani
ipadama ang pait ng kabiguan
habang ipinag bubunyi
ang walang kat u lad na kag itin gan
ng isang nagtaya
mang yari lamang ay tumayo
ang mga nan gangam bang magma hal
nang makita ng lahat
ang kilos ng isang bata
ipa malas ang kat a p atan ng damdamin
na pilit ikinukubli
ng pusong lumaki sa mga engkanto at diwatamang yari lamang ay tumayo
ang mga nagma hal, mina hal at ini wan
ngu nit handa pa ring magma hal
nang makita ng lahat ang yaman ng karanasan
ipa malas ang kato to hanang nasak si han
nang mag ing makahu lu gan
ang mga pagh ag ul gol
at sa mga nana natil ing nakaupo
mang yari lamang ay dahan– dahang tumalilis
papal abas sa nakan gan gang pinto
umuwi na kayo
at sum batan ang mga mag u lang
na nag palaki ng isang halimaw
at sa lahat ng nai wang nakatayo
mang yari lamang ay hagkan ang isa’t isa
at yakapin ang mga sug atan
mabuhay tay ong lahat na nag sisikap na mak a ba lik
sa ating pinagmulan
at higit sa lahat mag pat u loy
sa pagmamahal.

DUGTUNGAN

(poem was originally titled “Marking the Close” but since my friends couldn’t help but contribute in Facebook, i just need to repost this, kung gusto nyo pa sumama, GO LANG!)

Sayang nga.
Kasi parang wala nang panahon
at wala na ring pagkakataon.
At kung meron man,
nagkakaubusan na ng rason.
Pero kung nauna ka na sana
At narinig ko na agad,
Di ikaw na ang kasama
At ako na ang rason.
Pero marami nang nangyari
Sa mundo mo
At sa mundo ko
Sa lahat ng pangyayari
Hindi ikaw ang kasama ko
At sa’yo, hindi naman ako.
Sa ngayon masaya naman sana
Kung minsan nakakatawa
Gusto kong sabihin na
Ikaw na lang sana.
Pero ang weird naman non diba? (E.Monsod)

kung minsan may umaaasa
kahit alam hindi naman talaga
mabuti na ang pumusta
kaysa buong buhay ay nag akala. (J.Hernandez)

Ngunit kahit mga panahon ay naaalala
Ang mga tawanan
At mahahabang usapan...
Wala paring panghihinayang
Dahil kahit sandali lamang
Ako’y masaya
Na tayo’s nagkasama (M. Ylagan)

At kung dumating ang panahon na,
ang pagpapaalam ay katumbas ng HINDI NA,
wag mong kakalimutan,na minsan ay dumaan pa…
Para ang pusong nanaghoy at nangulila,
Ay sabihin sa mata kong, tiglan na ang pagluha... (E.Monsod)

at kahit bawal ka mang mahalin,
hindi dahil sa hindi dapat,

at alam natin, alam nila,
na para sayo, hindi ako sapat......

Pero sana naman wag akong pigilan,
Malamang hindi naman ‘to tatagal ng kailanman,

Sa ngayon pagbigyan mo na,
Alam natin, alam nila.

Hindi naman hihingi ng kapalit,
Sarili ko’y hindi ipipilit,
Hindi naman ipagdadasal,
Na sana bukas ako rin ay iyong mahal…

Alam natin, alam nila, na sa ngayon,
Mahal na mahal kita.

Blah blah blah. (D. Pano)

because i was tagged by Rach...

Your view on yourself:
You are intelligent, honest and sweet. You are friendly to everybody and don't like conflict. Because you're so cheerful and fun people are naturally attracted to you and like to talk to you.
The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:
You are not looking merely for a girl/boyfriend - you are looking for your life partner. Perhaps you should be more open-minded about who you spend time with. The person you are looking for might hide their charm under their exterior.
Your readiness to commit to a relationship:
You are ready to commit as soon as you meet the right person. And you believe you will pretty much know as soon as you might that person.
The seriousness of your love:
You like to flirt and behave seductively. The opposite sex finds this very attractive, and that's why you'll always have admirers hanging off your arms. But how serious are you about choosing someone to be in a relationship with?
Your views on education
Education is very important in life. You want to study hard and learn as much as you can.
The right job for you:
You have many goals and want to achieve as much as you can. The jobs you enjoy are those that let you burn off your considerable excess energy.
How do you view success:
You are confident that you will be successful in your chosen career and nothing will stop you from trying.
What are you most afraid of:
You are afraid of things that you cannot control. Sometimes you show your anger to cover up how you feel.
Who is your true self:
You are full of energy and confidence. You are unpredictable, with moods changing as quickly as an ocean. You might occasionally be calm and still, but never for long.
http://www.quizbox.com/personality/test82.aspx

Excerpt from "Iba't Ibang Ngalan ng Hangin"

Liham


1.

Kaninang madaling-araw,
dumungaw ako sa bintana at buong-lakas na isinigaw
ang iyong pangalan. Nangatal ang mga dahon.
Patuloy na nagsayaw ang nag-iisang gamugamo
sa paligid ng umaandap-andap na ilaw-poste.
Umusad ang mga ulap. Nagkubli ang buwan.
Walang sinumang lumingon.

2.

Gusto kong ipaalam sa iyo
kung gaano nang kahirap ang dumilat.
Nagdurugo ang kalawakan
sa bawat kong pagtingala, nagiging simbigat ng tingga,

at wala na akong magawa kundi abangan
ang marahas nitong pagbulusok.
Ilang libong taon nang uso
ang kamatayan, sabi ng isang makata, at oo,

ilang libong taon na nga tayong binabagabag
ng mga hangganan, ngunit iyon at iyon pa rin
ang katahimikang sumasakop sa ating mga lalamunan
sa tuwing napagtatantong di na babalik ang lumisan.

Iyon pa rin ang mga pagnanasang
alam nating di kailanman makakamtan:
Gusto kong isiping naririnig mo ako,
nababasa mo ito, at sa gilid ng papel,

napapansin mo ang isang linya, nangungulila,
walang mapagsingitan: Nasaan ka na?
Kayhirap magtanong nang walang tumutugon.
Kayhirap pumikit nang nalalamang

kadiliman din lamang ang sasalubong
sa aking pagdilat.

3.

Kailangan kong magpatuloy.
Sapagkat may mga bagay na hindi mo nagawa.

4.

Kayraming balakid sa paglimot: Dalawang talukap,
kalahating kabang langib, isang tabong dugo.

Sa pader ng kusina, sintaas ng tuhod,
may sampulgadang linya. Iginuhit mo iyon, dati,
gamit ang pulang krayola. Hanggang dito
ang inabot ng huling baha. Sandakot na abo.

Singsing, kupas na salamin. Pitak
sa marmol na sahig. Sa ibabaw ng aparador,
may bukbuking kahon, puno
ng mga luma mong liham. Paminsan-minsan,
ibinababa ko pa rin iyon, hinaharaya
ang tinig mong binibigkas ang mga linya.
Hindi mo kailangang magpaliwanag.
Naiintindihan kita. Butas-butas na maleta.

May-lamat na kopita. Kalawanging kuwadra
ng mga ibon. Sa tokador: Ilang aklat. Kuwaderno,
listahan ng mga ipamimili. Huwag
kalilimutan! Tinitigan ko nang masinsin
ang lahat nang ito, isinilid sa isang baul,

pilit pinagkasya sa bukbukin kong puso.
Sa hardin, nakaukit sa sandalan ng bangko,
isang puso, pangalan mo, pangalan ko,
Mayroon pa bang kulang? Mayroon
pa bang naiwan? Sapagkat
kailangan kong sunugin
ang lahat nang natira.

5.

GAMUGAMONG NAGSASAYAW:
Kaylapit nang magliwanag,
ngunit di ko matiis na lumapit sa iyong init.

UMAANDAP-ANDAP NA ILAW-POSTE:
May hanggan ang halat.

GAMUGAMONG NAGSASAYAW:
Alam kong kapag lumapit ako nang tuluyan,
masusunog ako.

UMAANDAP-ANDAP NA ILAW-POSTE:
May mga pagkakataong kailangan nating magpasya.

GAMUGAMONG NAGSASAYAW:
Ngunit kaydilim ng lungsod! Kaylamig!
Kailangan ko ng kapirasong liwanag.
Iyon lamang, at maaari na akong pumanaw.

UMAANDAP-ANDAP NA ILAW-POSTE:
Huwag nating pag-usapan ang kamatayan.

6.

Kailangan kong magpatuloy.
Sapagkat malapit nang magliwanag.

7.

Gusto kong pagkasyahin sa iilang saknong
itong dambuhalang kadilimang dumaragan
sa kumikipot at kumikipot kong sulok ng lungsod.

Ngunit paano? Kung bukas, may maalala ako,
isusulat ko na lamang iyon sa lumang diyaryo,
sa likod ng kalendaryo, ibubulong sa mga ibon,

iguguhit sa hangin, at saka hihipan.
Aasa na lamang na babalik sa akin ito
bilang hininga, o ulan. Aasa na lamang

na maririnig mo ako. Gusto kong isigaw,
paulit-ulit, buong-lakas, ang iyong pangalan.
Gusto kong bulungan ako ng bintana

gamit ang nangangatal mong tinig.
Kayrami ko pang gustong sabihin,
ngunit sadya nga sigurong tungkol ito

sa mga hangganan. Gusto kong maglaho
ang lahat ng hangganan. Gusto kong
ipagbawal ang kamatayan.

Gusto ko nang pumikit, at dumilat
nang hindi nangungulila, nakaantabay
sa muling pagliwanag ng kalawakan,

at naririto pa rin, palagi,
umaalala.

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written by Palance 2008 winner, Mikael de Lara Co

Finding Peter Pan

from Peyups.com
Contributed by dragfly (Edited by arwen)
Wednesday, October 29, 2008 @ 12:28:19 AM
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So there I was, catching falling stars on my bed one night and contemplating on my longest ever crush on Peter Pan. Maybe if he were for real (and if dogs could really fly) I could too, if only I didn't know that while I believed so much on fairies, my fairies never did believe in me. I could not blame them; I never really took off the galaxies stuffed in my pockets, and I kept on catching more falling stars than I could hold in my hands. They must have thought that it was this weight that kept me anchored to the ground.


I found pixie dust sprinkled inside my shoes, when I finally got off the bed. Only I didn't get that magical feeling in the movies, (the room did not echo "you can fly, you can fly!" ) It stung my feet instead, like when you sit on your leg for too long, stung my feet like having that funny bone on your elbow hit by the classroom chair. I liked wearing them anyway, for it reminded me of Peter Pan (and have I mentioned that I had the longest crush on him?) and I thought maybe if I wore these pixie shoes, by some good fairytale karma, he would appear. Even though it stung. (Even though I didn't know yet that later on, it will bleed.)

Anyway I always kept my needles ready, just in case he drops by searching for his shadow.


So then my window flew open, as I watched in awe as the second star to the right shone brighter and brighter, I ran to the sill and stood on the roof thinking of what it's like, face to face with your most elusive dream - must have been that same feeling in the wax museum when you're face to face with hollywood stars, only better. (as I have never really found wax a legitimate substitute for human beings - wax hands are too slippery to hold.) Peter Pan was more than a Michael Jackson. Heck, Peter Pan was far greater to me then even Elvis.


I felt afloat. My feet began to leave the roof tiles - I was going to fly! I gave it one huge leap of faith, and I drifted into the endless sky. (And for the first time ever, like that cow in the nursery rhyme, I finally understood how it felt to jump over the moon)


I didn't stay there for long though. Next thing I knew I was being pulled hard into the earth, plunging into the darkness underneath me. Down down down down down down


It was a seemingly endless fall. How high have I really been? Down, down, down.

Down, down, down, I couldn't have crashed harder. The moment I hit the ground I felt my bones dig themselves into my other bones, and the stars that I have held so dearly in these pockets fell all over the place, dug themselves into my skin, like shards of that full length mirror that used to hang in our old apartment, (along with those five years of bad luck multiplied by a thousand stars and a few dozen galaxies and the remains of the first dog in space)


I had legitimate reasons to cry then, only I figured that crying is not as much fun as laughing, And so I did. And all of a sudden I realized that it takes more than pixie dust to fly.

And while I thought that my fairies never did believe in me, I felt myself begin to rise.

(I never found my Peter, but who am I to protest now that I'm in Neverland?)

Ang Sabi ni Carlo...

.... nang sinabi ko na may boyfriend na ako.
"parang Mortal Kombat..... Fuma-FINAL BATTLE ka ah!"
Winner,

If I Were a Boy/Girl

salamat Ces. Sobrang gusto ko talaga itong version na'to.
( Beyonce Feat. Lee Carr)

If I were a boy
even just for a day
I'd roll out of bed in the morning
and throw on what I wanted and go
Drink beer with the guys
and chase after girls
I'd kick it with who I wanted
and I'd never get confronted for it
cause they'd stick up for me

If I were a boy
I think I could understand
how it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed

If I were a girl
even just for a day
I'd get out of bed in the morning
and take forever to get ready
Complain to my friends
as if they got a man
They talk about you cause they're jealous
and I just stay and listen to it (I should get rid of them)

If I were a girl
I dont think I'd understand
how it feels to love a boy
I swear I'd be a better woman
I'd listen to him
cause I don't know everything
I would always try to tell him that he needs to treat me better
Like I don't gotta change at all


If I were a girl
It's a little too late for you to come back
Say it's just a mistake, think I'd forgive you like that? (I don't)
If you thought I would wait for you,
you thought wrong (I did wrong)
But you're just a boy
and you're just a girl
You don't understand
No you don't understand
How it feels to love a girl someday
You wish you were a better man

You don't listen to her
and you don't listen to him
You don't care how it hurts (you don't care how I feel)
Until you lose the one you wanted
cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
But you're just a boy
and you're just a girl

LOST and FOUND


But hey, sometimes, it's when no one's looking that you get found.
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Tama ang Love in the Time of Cholera nun sinabi sa book na,

"... then enjoy your pain, take advantage of it now while you are still young. Suffer... suffer all you can, because these things don't happen your whole lifetime."

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Tama din si Natalie Portman nun sinabi nya sa Closer na,

"There's a moment, there's always a moment, You can do this, i can give in to this or I can resist it. And I don't know what your moment was but I bet there was one."

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The weekend was great. Hello MIDTERMS, I WILL ENJOY YOU BECAUSE YOU WON'T LAST MY WHOLE LIFETIME.


MORE ACRONYMS

SINGAPORE
Sana Ikaw Na, Grabe Ang Perfect! OVER, REALLY, EVER! – Kate Sabado
Sa Iyo Nasaktan, Gumuho Ang Puso… Okay Rin Eh! – Eunice Monsod

USA
U Suck, Asshole.

SPAIN
Sorry, Pucha, Ang Insecure Niyo!

Ka-blag

Diale: Parang gusto kong magbenta ng liver.
Ethel: Ako magbebenta ng laman, literal.
B. Trina: [Nag-isip] Ako un oil ko sa face. Pwede diba? Mahal naman ang langis ngayon e.
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Tal: [aburido sa B1, nagyoyosi]
Euns: O Tal, bakit ka naman mukhang aburido dyan?
Tal: Boss, san ba nakakakuha ng "sparks"?
Euns: Pucha, ako nga 3 taon na dito walang sparks. Minsan talaga, ok na ang panawid gutom jan. Kung gusto mo ng "sparks", magkiskis ka ng watusi jan sa tabi.
[May feelings... bitterness ito. haha]
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Close fight. Close fight sila ng abstain." -Anonymous
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Diale: Ang sabi kasi nun friend ko, ayaw daw ng mga lalaki sa mga funny kasi sila un dapat nagpapatawa.
Gea: Ayaw din nila ng masyado friendly kasi pag nasaktan, marami magagalit.
Diale: At gusto nila ng mga damsel in distress, ayaw nila ng masyadong independent.
Euns: SHET! AYAW NILA AKO. Kaya naman pala e. Case solved.

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Grabbed from Patty

A quote from The Holiday that just pierced its way to my heart.

"I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside you. And it doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you'll go somewhere new. And you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade. "

- Iris

Breakups are hard but that interim period between the breakup and finding someone new is the hardest. This is when you have all the time to think, analyze things... it is in this period that you feel you are at your weakest because there is no one to love and no one who loves you. You do a lot of good things, some silly things until in the end , you realize what you have known the whole time, it was a mere inkling... something you refused to accept and notice.

You can be happy. You will be. Only then will you finally be free.

UPDATES

As expected, I got called to recite for my Special Cases in Business Law class today. The only EO that I wasn't able to get a copy of turned out to be the most important document in my recit. But I wasn't suprised, I should've seen that coming knowing how fate has always managed to create a spoof out of my life. Anyway, if there is one thing I am good in, it's being able to make anyone smile and my professor wasn't an exception.

Prof: So, what are these regular holidays?
Euns: [enumerates] Blah,blah... Bonifacio day.. blah blah... Rizal Day.
Prof: Do we have an Aguinaldo day?
Euns: No, we don't have an Aguinaldo day sir
Prof: Are you sure?
Euns: Yes sir.
Prof: Why?
Euns: I think it's political. [Whether we admit it or not, we chose to side with Bonfiacio when the Katipunan "drifted apart"]
Prof: So we don't have an Aguinaldo Day?
Euns: No, but we can always get Aguinaldo during Christmas season from our ninongs and ninangs.
[Class and Prof laughs]
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So one of my friends had an "episode" and we ended up hanging out at another friend's dorm.We were doing our thing [without alcohol and yosi, I am so proud of us] and this conversation happened.

Friend 1: So Friend 2, how's your boylet?
Friend 2: Ayun, tulog. Bwisit, tinulugan ako.
Euns: Friend 3, baka kailangan mo magtanong sa boylet ni Friend 2 kung paano makatulog.
Friend 3: Oo nga no. Friend 2, baka naman pwede nya ako mabigyan ng tips... [isip] Baka naman nakatulog sya kasi ka-text ka... Magtext-text na lang tayo mamaya.
Euns: Winner.

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We have a "MOCK NATIONAL ELECTIONS" coming up for POLI LAW REVIEW. I am so happy with my partymates. We call ourselves the BIRTHDAY PARTY. Yes, we're crazy. Who isn't right?

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Speaking of crazy, never mind.

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I have a new semi-crush. He's uhmm, yummy. I loooooove looking at him while pretending to be nonchalant of his presence. If only he's in my league.

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Someone stole my newly-bought creamer for the LSAC. With the container and all. MAGKA-DIARRHEA KA SANA.

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Last na, I know I declared that it is hekhek time, it's just that with all the hekhekan happening around me, I am enjoying being the "audience". But just like what I said earlier, I have a new semi-crush. Ang hot kasi e.

Running to Myself

"You musn't give your heart to a wild thing. The more you do, the stronger they get, until they're strong enough to run into the woods or fly into a tree. And then to a higher tree and then to the sky."

-Holly Golightly

"You know what's wrong with you, Miss Whoever-you-are? You're chicken, you've got no guts. You're afraid to stick out your chin and say, 'Okay, life's a fact, people do fall in love, people do belong to each other, because that's the only chance anybody's got for real happiness.' You call yourself a free spirit, a "wild thing," and you're terrified somebody's gonna stick you in a cage. Well baby, you're already in that cage. You built it yourself. And it's not bounded in the west by Tulip, Texas, or in the east by Somali-land. It's wherever you go. Because no matter where you run, you just end up running into yourself."

- Paul Varjak
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They have it all figured out in 1961. Breakfast at Tiffany's is my untamed biography.

Quoting Eunice [PART TWO]

Lagi ka kayang "the in-between-girl". The girl after a past relationship, before a future relationship, but never in the present relationship. Tangina.”
-“I’m Creeping Me Out” 9/19/2005 02:24:00 AM

"I'm surrounded by a lot of really warm people.. but why do i feel cold? Abandoned? Alone?"
- 9/20/2005 11:51:00 PM

"Ever felt like you wanna just walk real slow to find out if someone'll look back to ask why you're a step behind? I did. Ever felt like you wanna just sit back, not talk and observe.. hoping that even for a second, someone'll notice that you're not saying anything? I did. Ever turned the volume of your MP3 player to its maximum to drown out all the voices that are in your head because in the end, there's really one voice you'd rather hear? I did."
9/20/2005 11:51:00 PM

"We begin to care when we begin to doubt. Caring for someone is such a complicated emotion. You at times find yourself thinking of how you can make life better for that person only to realize in the end that you have your own inadequacies... and that these might tear your worlds apart."

"I envy people who are loving despite and inspite of. Looking back, I was so sure I'll be the perfect girlfriend, i'll be the perfect lover, the perfect friend. There are millions of people in the world who are braving the challenges of LOVE, but how can I show the world that I can survive it too when there's just no one to love?"
-“Sappy - mushy - kuchie kuchie koo”5/25/2005 01:04:00 AM

"After a few hours, I will be smiling again. It’s just that lately, my smiles are painful. They’re empty smiles from a barren being.
- Barren 9/12/2005 03:52:00 AM

"I remember having this conversation with a friend about oblivioviousness and happiness. He asked me, "Is a person who can travel really better off than a person who doesnt get to travel but who doesnt really want to travel?" I asked him, "Why is he oblivious? I guess it's just his defense mechanism because he cant travel." But what if he honestly doesnt want to travel? Is a traveller really better off? Well, i guess not. The same goes for love, for companionship... Is someone who is in a relationship with commitment better off than someone who doesnt really wanna be committed? But what if this person who firmly believes that she doesnt wanna be committed only made such decision because she doesnt have a grasp of the happiness that she can actually experience when she finally decides to commit to a relationship? Is she still better off?"
- Mediocrity 10/21/2005 05:58:00 PM

"I'll see you around is the saddest line" because even if i might see you around, i dont know if you will really see. And if you cant see, then chances are... you cannot feel."
-I'll See You Around is the Saddest Line10/18/2005 02:38:00 PM

"As for me, i don’t believe in any adjective that comes before the word LOVE. i think love is indescribable enough that any adjective cannot give justice to its already complicated meaning. If it's love, it's love. No right or wrong love. It's plain and simple love."
-The Right Love at the Wrong Time.9/04/2005 08:56:00 AM

"They looked into each other’s eyes. The rain poured with much vigor, the whole world turned into darkness. The wind blew hard, as the rain kissed the ground ardently, water and earth became one. The moon wasn’t there, but tomorrow, the sun will shine to give light to their lost hearts…"
- ”The Virgin” 11/27/2004 07:12:00 PM

Address to the UP Econ Graduates on Recognition Day

Address to the Graduates on Recognition Day
Robina Gokongwei-Pe*
* Delivered on 26 April 2008, on the occasion of Recognition Day for the UP School of Economics, UP Film Center

Thank you very much Professor Dante Canlas for your wonderful, wonderful
introduction. (Addressing the faculty and guests)

Dean Emmanuel de Dios – Dean de Dios was my professor of international trade way
back in 1981, and it is not only because he gave me a grade of 1.5 that I agreed to be your
guest speaker for today. It is hard for me to remember all my teachers in college, but
Dean de Dios was someone I remembered very well, because I couldn’t imagine how one
so young could be so brilliant. Dean de Dios was personally chosen by UP President
Emerlinda Roman to be one of the speakers at the UP Centennial Lecture Series. He will
speak on “Secular morality and the University” on May 7; (Plugging plugging.)
By the way, President Roman says that noted filmmaker Behn Cervantes keeps
reminding everyone that it’s pronounced “centennial” with a short “e,” and not
“centeeeennial.”

Former Dean Raul Fabella – It’s unfortunate that I missed Dean Fabella in college. I
think he was in the US when I was a student;

College Secretary Oggie Arcenas – Di ko rin inabutan si Professor Arcenas, but then he
must’ve been still in high school when I was at UPSE. When I saw him, I came to the
conclusion that UPSE college secretaries are all boyish-looking because the college
secretary during my time, Professor Cayetano Paderanga, who incidentally taught me
Econ 101, had the same features. (During my time, there were two cutie pies – Professor
Vito Inoferio and Professor Cayetano Panderanga.)

Professor Dante Canlas, who taught me Econ 181. He was the only professor man
enough to give me a grade of “1” even if I didn’t take his midterm exams. I will tell you
about that later;

Professor Solita Monsod – the irrepressible Winnie Monsod, with her sexy legs, miniskirt,
booming voice, cigarette and iced tea in tow. Professor Monsod taught us Econ 11
and Econ 101, and she explained everything so clearly it made economics less scary than
I thought. One morning during a class in the auditorium, Professor Monsod said, “Hey,
who’s been spreading the news that this glass I’m carrying everyday to class contains
scotch? Of course I don’t bring scotch to class. It’s iced tea!”;

Professor Manny Esguerra – sayang, di ko naging teacher si Prof Esguerra;

Professor Benjie Sandoval of the College of Business Administration – Benjie is
Executive Director and my barkada at the UP Centennial Commission;

Tita Eden Bautista, former administrative officer at SE 101, who gave me my honorable
dismissal in 1981 when I unexpectedly left UP in my senior year. If I need someone to
remember where I placed all my things, it has to be Tita Eden. In fact, she is right now
holding my handbag for me;

Joaquin Teotico, President of the UPSE Alumni Association;

Academic personnel, administration personnel, parents and graduates, good afternoon.

I’m very happy to be back in the university which I never graduated from but I wish I
had. I am simply one lucky bitch to be speaking on your recognition day. Thank you to
the UPSE Student Council, led by Sarah Adan and Jances Parado, for inviting me. In
their letter, Sarah and Jances asked me to share my experiences and insights into being an
instrument of meaningful change in society. And if could please bring in the concept of
economics as an instrument of change and progress.
I gave Dean de Dios a call and said, “Dean, it’s a wonderful topic but I don’t know what
I’m supposed to say,” and he told me, “Let’s have lunch with the students and talk about
it.”
And so I did, and I met Sarah, Jances, and other student reps Mario Garcia, Nica Maloles
and Jelain Reyes, plus Dean Fabella, Professor Arcenas, Professor Monsod and Jack
Teotico. I asked the students, what would you really, really be interested in? They said,
can I talk about what’s for them after economics? The faculty said, how about
entepreneurship, or how about matching economic theories with reality?
And so I decided to put everything together, as chopsuey as it may sound. Let me start
with economic theories, or concepts, or terminology, whatever is the right way of calling
them.
The first theory is the ubiquitous law of supply and demand. The reason I failed to
graduate from UP was that I was kidnapped on the way to School in September of 1981,
and guess what, right on the day I was supposed to take Porfessor Canlas’s exams.
Contrary to the 2000 movie “Ping Lacson, supercop”, I was not jogging on the grounds
of UP wearing a mid-riff when I got kidnapped. In the first place I didn’t have the body
then to wear that outfit and never will. By the way, the actress who played me in the
movie was Angel Locsin, and I hope you didn’t invite me to make this speech because
you thought I looked like her. (Of course, deep inside, I wish I did.)
By the way, yes, it was then-Lt. Col. and now Senator Ping Lacson who rescued me after
seven days in captivity. He literally kicked and broke down the door, just like what you
see in the movies.
At that time, 1981, the kidnappers demanded P7 million in ransom money. Nowadays,
any Tom, Dick and Harry would kidnap you for as low as P300,000. And that’s the law
of supply and demand. The price has gone down to P300,000 because there are so many
unorganized criminal gangs nowadays who are willing to take anything, and the victims
are more willing to give since it’s not worth your life trying to haggle if it’s only
P300,000.
You must be wondering whether the kidnappers were caught. Which brings me the
second theory, the theory of competitive advantage.
The mastermind was the son of a judge from Cebu. The judge from the lower court found
him guilty, but when the case came up to the Supreme Court, the justices there acquitted
him. It’s only in the Philippines where you see the mastermind of a kidnapping get
acquitted, and I wonder whether it has to do with his being the son of another judge. That
is what you call competitive advantage.
The third theory is cost-benefit analysis. In 1989, we acquired the venerable national
daily Manila Times from the Roces family. Sometime in 1998, my editors, who
incidentally came from UP, wrote a headline that annoyed then-President Joseph Estrada.
The story was about how the government was unwittingly led to sign an anomalous
contract with IMPSA, a foreign group. Take note, this was in 1998, so if you’re thinking
that this is ZTE, this is not ZTE.
Anyway, I didn’t even know what the story was all about, as my policy was to leave the
editors to do their job while I handled the business side. I ended up getting sued by the
president of the country, and for several nights, I thought hard about the future of the
paper. As an economist would say, “Do a cost-benefit analysis.” The benefit was that it
was a well-respected paper with a well-respected staff. However, the cost was that I was
sure to die early, thinking about getting sued day in and day out. I didn’t want the staff to
deal with a boss suffering from a nervous breakdown, and I didn’t want the readers to
think that we were now forced to change the newspaper’s ideals to avoid any more
lawsuits, so with a heavy heart, we sold the paper.
Running a well-respected paper was part of my efforts at being an instrument of
meaningful change in society. So much for the effort. I figured, hay naku, magtitindera
na lang ako.
Anyway, five years after, the government ended up suing that same foreign group,
IMPSA, for leading them to sign that anomalous contract. By that time, I was already
leading a less-turbulent life managing our retail group, and I left my sister Lisa to
continue with publishing. She was smarter than me. She put up the highly successful
Summit Publishing, which includes some staples such as Cosmopolitan and FHM. This is
where I can say that when it comes to sex, the demand is always greater than the supply.
The fourth concept is about monopolies and oligopolies. A UP alumnus recently
branded our family as oligarchs in the airline industry. In my economics textbook, an
oligopoly happens when only a few players dominate the industry and set the price of
goods unreasonably high. I do not know how we can be oligarchs if we give
opportunities for people to travel more often by providing one-peso fares. Setting the
price of goods with one-peso fares? Maybe he wants us to lower it to 50 centavos.
Let me go on to the fifth and sixth concepts, which I believe are the most important
because it has to do with what you are going to do after graduation. Specifically, what
you think you can do after an economics degree. In truth, you can do anything you want.
In fact, I asked the student reps over lunch why they majored in economics, and they said
it’s because they had the impression that you can do anything with an economics degree,
and I told them they were right.
In fact, I wonder who among of you were like me who decided to major in economics
because we wanted something close to business but not take up business administration,
and we thought that economics and BA were almost the same. It turns out that they’re
related in some ways but in most ways, they’re totally different, and it’s a good thing I
didn’t major in BA: I barely passed Accounting.
My dad didn’t force me to take up BA after I graduated in high school in 1978 because he
said that I would learn business anyway when I entered business, so I should go learn
something else. If I had had the choice, I would’ve gone into anthropology or veterinary
medicine, but then it was uso among the Chinoys at that time that you either majored in
pre-med because you were going to be a doctor, or in business because you were going to
work in a bank. It seems that Chinoys were headed to only two professions at that time.
I was the typical Chinoy who just followed where everyone went.
Anyway, back to my fifth and sixth theories – the theory of opportunity costs and the
law of diminishing marginal returns. I know that when you start looking for a job, you
will do two things – you will compare what each company is offering you, and you will
compare your pay with your batchmates. Taking the first job offer that comes your way
implies an opportunity cost of losing the chance of making more money. You wouldn’t
want to lose that opportunity of making more money would you?
Six months into the job, either one of two things can happen, or the two may happen at
the same time. Six months into the job, either you are thinking about whether this is the
job you really want, and you will keep on meditating about it to the consternation of your
boss; or another company will try to poach you by offering better pay and benefits, or
both.
Now take note that you belong to Generation Y, which the latest issue of The Mckinsey
Quarterly describes as people “born after 1980 – whose outlook as been shaped by by,
among other things, the Internet, information overload, and overzealous parents. HR
professionals say these workers demand more flexibility, meaningful jobs, professional
freedom, higher rewards, and a better work life-life balance than older employees do.
People in this group see their professional careers as a series of two-three year chapters
and will readily switch jobs”. Emphasis on “readily switch jobs.”
So on to Theory No. 6, the law of diminishing marginal returns. Being a member of Gen
Y, you may have the habit of moving from one job to another always grabbing the one
that will pay you more. You have the right not to miss out on these opportunity costs, but
take note that if, by the time you’re 30, and you show this three-page resumé of having
had 12 jobs in eight years, you can be sure that you will experience first hand the law of
diminishing marginal returns. On your 13th job-interview, you will be worth what your
rate was when you were 22. No employer will dare hire you, because he thinks you will
just run off again after six months.
Assuming (which by the way is an economist’s favorite word), you decided to become an
entrepreneur instead of seeking employment, then bravo, you made the right decision.
Entrepreneurship is a topic that Dean de Dios wanted me to talk about, but I told him that
I wasn’t an entrepreneur. I am only managing one of my father’s businesses and using
company money, not my money. But Dean said that in any case, he knows more people
who have spent all their father’s wealth and run the business into the ground much faster
than it took me to build my father’s business. So thank you for your kind words, Dean.
I am not an entrepreneur – it is my dad who’s an entrepreneur – but let me say something
about it. I think the reason few people go into entrepreneurship especially when they
come from top tier schools like UP is that when they want to open their own taho cart, for
example, people around them would tease them and say “Ano ka ba, galing kang UP,
magtataho ka lang!”
My answer to that is “E ano?” At least you have something you can call your very own.
You are not beholden to anyone but yourself, and yet you bring joy to society because
you give people a product that they like. After all, big businesses started by being small
once. Big business didn’t start out big: there’s no such thing.
Let me give you though one tip about running a business, and one more economic theory
to go with it.
It’s about the theory of market competition. There’s such a thing as fair competitors,
and there’s such a thing as desperate competitors. Both are troublesome, but you know
fair competition is part of free enterprise. As for desperate competitors, you worry if this
country is retrograding
You were not born yet when the story of my kakambal na ahas who was half-woman,
half-snake came out when we opened our second Robinsons Department Store branch in
Cebu in 1985. My kakambal was supposed to be the source of our wealth as she laid
golden eggs. She was supposed to be hiding under the floor of the fitting rooms, and
everytime a beautiful woman would enter, the floor would open and she would land right
inside the mouth of my kakambal na ahas. I have no idea who started this incredible
story, but I have to tell you that some people believed it and even started staring at my
legs if there were any signs of snakeskin. A few people still ask me about it, and I have to
tell them na naging handbag na ho sa Robinsons Department Store.
Thank goodness there was no internet yet at that time, or you would start receiving
photos of me with a snake’s body and my kakambal na snake with a woman’s legs.
How do you deal with these dirty tricks? Nothing, just keep quiet and let the story fade
away. Or better still, make a joke out of it.
And that is what you are going to face on a regular basis once you step out of the School.
Someone will be out to kill your product, out to get your job, out to grab your boyfriend.
And if you’re an unlucky bitch, maybe all at the same time! But in the end, you will
come out a stronger person, and better still, end up with a much better boyfriend.

Thank you and congratulations!
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