Of Broken Hearts and Everything that Comes with Love

“I’m used to getting dumped. It’s not pain I’m feeling right now, it’s nostalgia.”

-Ally McBeal

When you earn nothing but pain from a relationship that at one point made you believe, you tend to forget your worth. You tend to blame yourself for the situation that you got yourself in. You forget that above all, you have loved and that you should be proud of yourself for taking the most difficult of leaps. It is not uncommon to see people drown themselves in sorrow because of failed relationships. We have all been there, or at least played the part of the listening ear for someone who is suffering. You can’t help but feel hatred for the person who caused you or your friend so much pain, you couldn’t help but think that if someone who claims to love can hurt another who has accepted that love, how can you keep the faith?

I’ve said it time and time again, what’s most important is that you have loved. It is the most wonderful of feelings, it is one of the best risks that one can take in a life that not only celebrates love but puts it on a pedestal. Yes, it may bring pain, or worse, regret… but why regret something that at one point gave you something to wake up for? Why regret committing a mistake if that mistake paved that way for you to be more human? Why regret pain when it is only in pain that you find yourself vowing that it will be better the next time? Maybe it won’t be better, but you will be better.

A broken heart is a heart that will be more susceptible to feeling more love the next time. A broken heart is a heart that has experienced something that is worth experiencing. A broken heart is a heart that through time, will heal or will be encompassed by another heart that may also be broken but is capable of merging the past pains and creating something beautiful and new out of it. A broken heart is still a heart that beats, not with ease but with a goal.

Sadness is a prelude to more happiness. It is the introduction, the best part is yet to come. So smile, don’t look back, don’t regret, just look forward to tomorrow. You may feel shitty today, but you’ll get rid of all the crap and will be ready for a new adventure. Anyway, if it doesn’t work out, you have your friends, your bottles of beer and well, your stories… isn’t it a life worth living?

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