The Law and Economics of Lust, Love and Life

He's Just Not that Into You

Because this book has become my Love Bible, watching the movie was like a dream come true. I this book has helped me realize that i shouldn't wait around for a guy to call me, i should just assume that i am part of the general rule, that if they don't call or in this generation, send a text message, chances are... i am not in his mind. So, why should I waste my time thinking of excuses for him who isn't even thinking about me right?

In the words of the author, I shouldn't waste the pretty. So, lemme share a few quotes from the book that are constantly running in my mind, 24/'7.

If a dude isn’t calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he’s dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him, his actions are screaming the truth: He’s just not that into you.

If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away.

When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you’d like us to be.” I know it’s an infuriating concept—that men like to chase and you have to let us chase you. I know. It’s insulting. It’s frustrating. It’s unfortunately the truth. My belief is that if you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, if you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he’s just not that into you. (And we want you to believe you’re one of the nine, ladies!) I can’t say it loud enough: You, the superfox reading this book, are worth asking out.

MY RULES

· An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of “ruining the friendship.”
· Don’t get tricked into asking him out. If he likes you, he’ll do the asking.
· If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.
· Just because you like to lead doesn’t mean he wants to dance. Some traditions are born of nature and last through time for a reason.
· “Hey, let’s meet at so-and-so’s party/any bar/friend’s house” is not a date. Even if you live in New York.
· Men don’t forget how much they like you. So put down the phone.
· You are good enough to be asked out.
· If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind.
· If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do the same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you.
· Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do.
· If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a reccurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs.
· “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating.
· You deserve a fucking phone call.
· Guys tell you how they feel even if you refuse to listen or believe them. “I don’t want to be in a serious relationship” truly means “I don’t want to be in a serious relationship with you” or “I’m not sure that you’re the one.” (Sorry.)
· Better than nothing is not good enough for you!
· If you don’t know where the relationship is going, it’s okay to pull over and ask.
· Murky? Not good.
· There’s a guy out there who will want to tell everyone that he’s your boyfriend. Quit goofing around and go find him.

MY VOW:

· I will not go out with a man who hasn’t asked me out first.
· I will not go out with a man who keeps me waiting by the phone.
· I will not date a man who isn’t sure he wants to date me.
· I will not date a man who makes me feel sexually undesirable.
· I will not date a man who drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable.
· I will not be with a man who’s afraid to talk about our future.
· I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me.
· I will not date a man who is married.
· I will not be with a man who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.

Now,, quotes from the movie:

Alex: You're my exception.

Gigi: We are all programmed to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk that means he likes you.

Beth: I just need you to stop being nice to me unless you're gonna marry me.

Mary: I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies.
Mary: It's exhausting.

Gigi: Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we're told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe... it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is... just... moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope.

Gigi: I would rather be like that, then be like you.
Alex: Excuse me? What's that supposed to mean?
Gigi: I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so much but at least that means that I still care. Oh! You've think you won because women are expendable to you. You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are.

Gigi: I think I've figured it out. Remember when I went out with that notary public and he cheated on me and then Anastasia from upstairs told me about how her boyfriend cheated on her in the beginning then he totally changed and now they're married and crazy in love?
Beth: I thought that guy was a process server.
Gigi: No notary. Anyway my point is, Anastasia is the exception, not the rule. We have to stop listening to these stories because they rule is most guys who cheat on you up front don't really care about you very much.
Janine: Ok.
Gigi: Ok, Ok. Exhibit A. Chad the drummer who lived in a storage space. He only used me for rides and yet I continued to stalk him for most of 1998. Then oh, um, there was Don, that broke up with me every Friday so that he could have his weekends free. I was delusional about that relationship. I used to refer to him as my husband to random people, like my dental hygienist. Anyway, all my friends used to tell me about how things might work out with these dipsticks because they knew someone, who knew someone, who dated a dipstick just like mine. That girl ended up getting married and living happily ever after. That the exception and we're not the exception we're the rule.

Alex: If a guy treats you like he doesn't give a sh*t, it's because he doesn't give a shit.

Gigi: Maybe his grandma died or maybe he lost my number or is out of town or got hit by a cab...
Alex: Or maybe he is not interested in seeing you again.

Gigi: Hey sorry to bug you again! Uh quick question.
Alex: What's going on?
Gigi: Ok I'm making out with this guy, PG stuff. but he mentions he's going out of town so he's gonna be out of touch.
Alex: Run.
Gigi: But maybe he is going out of town.
Alex: To where? New Guinea? Where's he gonna be that he's gonna be out of touch?
Gigi: Opens bathroom door - Where are you going out of town to again?
Gigi: Pittsburgh
Alex: Run.
Gigi: So what now I'm just supposed to turn from every guy who doesn't like me?
Alex: Uh. Yeah!
Gigi: There's not gonna be anybody left.

Alex: If a guy doesn't call you, he doesn't want to call you.

Gigi: Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up: if a boy punches you he likes you, never try to trim your own bangs, and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. every movie we see, every story we're told implores us to wait for it: the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. but sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. how to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. and maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. maybe the happy ending is just moving on. or maybe the happy ending is this: knowing after all the unreturned phone calls and broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment... you never gave up hope.

Pasensya Ka Na

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Pasensya ka na kung nagbago

Ang lahat na bunga ng katatawa-
Nan dito sa utak kong singgulo
Ng ekonomiya at sing-praning
Ng loka-loka. Gusto naman sana
Kita pero nakita kita na kasama sya
Na parang paalala na marami pa
Sila at ako ay mag-isa. Pasensya ka

Na kung parang di ka nakita
At kung nakita man kita
Ay kinausap ang iba at kung
Kinausap ka parang galit pa.
Ang taga-hanga mo kasi ay sadyang
Tatanga-tanga at takot na takot
na sa mga alaala na iniwan ng iba
Na pinapasok naman sana sa mundo
Nyang malala at madalas ay tulala.
Pasensya ka na sa lahat ng pagdududa

Sa intensyon mong malinaw pa
Sa mata ng mga bata na mas magaling
Pa sa pagdadala sa sitwasyong katulad
Kanina. Tumango naman ako, tumingin
Sa malayo kahit ang ulirat ko ay naiwan
Naman sa’yo na naglakad at lumayo.
Kung gusto mo naman sya, ayos lang
Sana. Pero sigurado ka na ba? Kasi
Gusto kita kahit di masyadong halata

At kung sakaling halata kalimutan mo na.
Pasensya ka na sa kaibigan mong aligaga
Na ang dilang madada at nagmamakaawa
Ay di kayang palabasin ang mga hinihintay
Na salita. Pwedeng gusto mo ko, pwede
Rin namang ayaw mo pero kung ako sa’yo
Wag mo naman ako isuko. kasi nga ganito
Naman ang natitirang pangako, sa kaguluhan
Ng tulang ito, isa lang ang sigurado, pag
Ako ang pinili mo, ititigil na ang paglalaro.

POWER ____!

Dahil ang buhay ko talaga ay parang isang malaking komedya. Kailangan magkalituhan na talaga sa isang gabi na ang hiniling ko lang naman ay maging masaya, uminom at makipagkwentuhan.

Fun naman e, Pero feeling ko isa akong hollywood star na may mga kasamang paparazzi sa paligid. haha. i love you guys pero next time sana mas discreet ng konti. Weird e. Lalo na kung ang drama natin ay "when it rains, it pours!" Dapat talaga sabay-sabay na, di pwede mag-focus sa isa lang?

Para naman sa POWER KISS na un. Kamusta naman diba? In fairness, may intensity talaga.

SO, medyo binalikan ko ang desciption sa isang Type 7 sa Enneagram at talaga naman swak na swak lang...

Type Seven in Brief

Sevens are extroverted, optimistic, versatile, and spontaneous. Playful, high-spirited, and practical, they can also misapply their many talents, becoming over- extended, scattered, and undisciplined. They constantly seek new and exciting experiences, but can become distracted and exhausted by staying on the go. They typically have problems with impatience and impulsiveness. At their Best: they focus their talents on worthwhile goals, becoming appreciative, joyous, and satisfied.

§ BBasic Fear: Of being deprived and in pain

§ BBasic Desire: To be satisfied and content—to have their needs
fulfilled

§ E

Motivations: Want to maintain their freedom and happiness, to avoid missing out on worthwhile experiences, to keep themselves excited and occupied, to avoid and discharge pain.

The Meaning of the Arrows (in brief)

When moving in their Direction of Disintegration (stress), scattered Sevens suddenly become perfectionistic and critical at One. However, when moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), gluttonous, scattered Sevens become more focused and fascinated by life, like healthy Fives. For more information, click here.

Examples: John F. Kennedy, Benjamin Franklin, Leonard Bernstein, Leonardo DiCaprio, Kate Winslet, Elizabeth Taylor, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, Steven Spielberg, Federico Fellini, Richard Feynman, Timothy Leary, Robin Williams, Jim Carey, Mike Myers, Cameron Diaz, Bette Midler, Chuck Berry, Elton John, Mick Jagger, Gianni Versace, Liza Minelli, Joan Collins, Malcolm Forbes, Noel Coward, Sarah Ferguson, Larry King, Joan Rivers, Regis Philbin, Howard Stern, John Belushi, and "Auntie Mame" (Mame).

Type Seven Overview

We have named this personality type The Enthusiast because Sevens are enthusiastic about almost everything that catches their attention. They approach life with curiosity, optimism, and a sense of adventure, like “kids in a candy store” who look at the world in wide-eyed, rapt anticipation of all the good things they are about to experience. They are bold and vivacious, pursuing what they want in life with a cheerful determination. They have a quality best described by the Yiddish word “chutzpah”—a kind of brash “nerviness.”

Although Sevens are in the Thinking Triad, this is not immediately apparent because they tend to be extremely practical and engaged in a multitude of projects at any given time. Their thinking is anticipatory: they foresee events and generate ideas “on the fly,” favoring activities that stimulate their minds—which in turn generate more things to do and think about. Sevens are not necessarily intellectual or studious by any standard definition, although they are often intelligent and can be widely read and highly verbal. Their minds move rapidly from one idea to the next, making Sevens gifted at brainstorming and synthesizing information. Sevens are exhilarated by the rush of ideas and by the pleasure of being spontaneous, preferring broad overviews and the excitement of the initial stages of the creative process to probing a single topic in depth.

Sevens are frequently endowed with quick, agile minds, and can be exceptionally fast learners. This is true both of their ability to absorb information (language, facts, and procedures) and their ability to learn new manual skills—they tend to have excellent mind-body coordination, and manual dexterity (typewriting, piano playing, tennis). All of this can combine to make a Seven into the quintessential "Renaissance person."

Ironically, Sevens' wide-ranging curiosity and ability to learn quickly can also create problems for them. Because they are able to pick up many different skills with relative ease, it becomes more difficult for them to decide what to do with themselves. As a result, they also do not always value their abilities as they would if they had to struggle to gain them. When Sevens are more balanced however, their versatility, curiosity, and ability to learn can lead them to extraordinary achievement.

The root of their problem is common to all of the types of the Thinking Triad: they are out of touch with the inner guidance and support of their Essential nature. As with Fives and Sixes, this creates a deep anxiety in Sevens. They do not feel that they know what to do or how to make choices that will be beneficial to themselves and others. Sevens cope with this anxiety in two ways. First, they try to keep their minds busy all of the time. As long as Sevens can keep their minds occupied, especially with projects and positive ideas for the future, they can, to some extent, keep anxiety and negative feelings out of conscious awareness. Likewise, since their thinking is stimulated by activity, Sevens are compelled to stay on the go, moving from one experience to the next, searching for more stimulation. This is not to say that Sevens are "spinning their wheels." They generally enjoy being practical and getting things done.

Second, Sevens cope with the loss of Essential guidance by using the “trial and error” method: they try everything to make sure they know what is best. On a very deep level, Sevens do not feel that they can find what they really want in life. They therefore tend to try everything—and ultimately may even resort to anything as a substitute for what they are really looking for. (“If I can’t have what will really satisfy me, I’ll enjoy myself anyway. I’ll have all kinds of experiences—that way I will not feel bad about not getting what I really want.”)

We can see this in action even in the most trivial areas of their daily lives. Unable to decide whether he wants vanilla, chocolate, or strawberry ice cream, a Seven will want all three flavors—just to be sure that he does not miss out on the “right” choice. Having two weeks for a vacation and a desire to visit Europe brings a similar quandary. Which countries and cities to visit? Which sites to see? The Seven’s way of dealing with this will be to cram as many different countries, cities, and attractions into his vacation as possible. While they are scrambling after exciting experiences, the real object of their heart’s desire (their personal Rosebud, as it were) may be so deeply buried in their unconscious that they are never really aware of precisely what it is.

Furthermore, as Sevens speed up their pursuit of whatever seems to offer freedom and satisfaction, they tend to make worse choices, and they are less able to be satisfied because everything is experienced indirectly, through the dense filter of their fast-paced mental activity. The result is that Sevens end up anxious, frustrated, and enraged, with fewer resources available to them physically, emotionally, or financially. They may end up ruining their health, their relationships, and their finances in their search for happiness.

On the positive side, however, Sevens are extremely optimistic people—exuberant and upbeat. They are endowed with abundant vitality and a desire to fully participate in their lives each day. They are naturally cheerful and good humored, not taking themselves too seriously, or anything else for that matter. As we have seen, the Basic Desire of Sevens is to be satisfied, happy, and fulfilled, and when they are balanced within themselves, their joy and enthusiasm for life naturally affect everyone around them. They remind us of the pure pleasure of existence—the greatest gift of all.

Patawa Nanaman

On Company Closure

Prof: What if for example, one morning, you wake up and feel the urge to just close the company? Can you do that?

Stude1: No sir.

Prof: What do you call that?

Euns: insanity

Ana: Extreme laziness.

Euns: Falling out of love.

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Prof: How will you write your termination letter due to retrenchment?

Cindy: Greetings! (goes on…)

Euns: it’s not you it’s me

Leah's Words of WIsdom

"Kung gusto mong humanap ng true love,wag kang sumali sa The Bachelor!"
"Kung gusto mong magdaldal, pumasok ka ng maaga."
Lastly pinakarelevant.
"Kasi naman kung gusto nyo magpabili sabihin nyo agad."

Ang Sagot ng Horoscope ko sa "Projection" ni Dial

The Bottom Line

There is no reason to be in a hurry right now, no matter what someone else says.

In Detail

There is no reason for you to be in a hurry to get anywhere right now, no matter what someone else is telling you. So take all the time you need and make no apologies for it! You have the right to do the amount of research that makes you feel good about your decision. And the more you can map out your plan of action in detail, the better things will go for you. Tell all the people who are pushing you that they are wasting their time. Assert yourself and stand your ground.

The Aftershock

Just knowing that something has ended is more than enough to make you wake up at the wrong side of your bed and make you feel all the unnecessary pain that wasn’t there when it actually happened. I couldn’t help but think that in all my failed relationships, the common factor was me. It hurts all the more to know that at one point, I was happy and that the happiness I felt ended or is at least not in the same level as it was before. Relationships are always complicated; you feel all these emotions ganging up on you like it’s the last time you can be bullied. I get asked if I am fine and I honestly say that I am. I have no other option but to be fine. It was a decision that had to be made despite all the cons. It was definitely for the best. We should quit while we’re ahead.

So I’m back to zero, back to where I started, with all the optimism that I can muster at this point. After all, we both deserve to be loved the way we imagined it to be, but more importantly, we deserve to be able to give all the love we have to someone who can bring out that drive to love in us. I am thankful, relieved and well, hopeful that in one way or the other we have learned from the experience and we will look back not with regret but with a smile that says, “We didn’t waste each other’s time.” Because while we were together, all the time spent were worth the things that we did and felt.

We will be fine. We have to be. I am... "really."

In Other Salita a.k.a Sa Madaling Words

In Tagalog:

Nung tiningnan mo ba ako, nakita mo rin ang takot

na dinala nito? Naaninag mo ba ang pagaatubili,

ang pagtatago na pilit kong pinapalitan

ng pagngiti at paghawi ng aking buhok na sa totoo

lang ay hiniling ko na takpan na lang ang aking pagkatao?

Nang hinawakan ba kita, nalaman mo na handa na

Akong ibigay sana ang pagtitiwala, ang pagkalinga

At ang pagmamahal ng nangungulila kong puso?

Pasensya ka na, mapatawad mo sana ang lahat

Ng pagtunganga, pagtahimik at pagsasawalang-

Bahala na ginagamit kong sandata laban sa’yo.

Hindi naman talaga laban sa’yo, kundi laban

sa posibilidad na maaari akong mahulog

at mapahamak sa pagtugon sa mahina pa

sanang tinig na nagsasabing ikaw, sana ikaw,

pwedeng ikaw, bakit ikaw? Mas malakas kasi

ang tinig na nagsusumamo na sa ganitong pagka-

kataon, mauna na muna ako, isipin ko muna

ang sarili ko, mahalin ko muna ako. Bakit hindi

ako? Kasi pag nangibabaw nanaman ang ikaw,

magmimistula nanamang saling-pusa lamang

ang ako na sana’y maging bida naman ng storyang

tinatawag ko paring aking buhay. Nang di natin na-

Malayan na magkadikit na ang ating mga tuhod,

Hita, kamay, mukha, damdamin! Ako lang ba

O parang sanay na sila na magkasama? Ako lang

Ba o parang matagal nang hinintay kita? Ako

Lang ba o nanumbalik na ang parating palang

Nating alaala? Ako lang ba? Ikaw rin ba? Pero

Sa pagtatapos ng mahabang tanungan na ito,

Ang tanong parin ay kung pwede nga rin ba

ang tayo? Itutuloy mo parin ba ang paghabol

sa kayo? Muli, natatakot nanaman ako. Kasi

kung tama ang palagay ko, matatapos na

kasabay nito ang guni-guni ko na pwede tayo.

Kasi ang paglalaban ng kayo at ng tayo, yung

Huli ang medyo dehado. Sana lang sa desisyon

Mo, maisip mo, kahit na konti, ako. At ang pag-

Lalaro na laging taya ang puso ko.

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In English: What’s up?!

To My Dear Balahuras

Happy second anniversary to my favorite people in the world, m y sisters, batchmates, co-balahuras and best of friends: Ces, Dial, Chris, Gea, Ethel and Dae.

I know that we’ve been through a lot together, and no matter what may come our way, there is one thing that remains constant, our sisterhood. We’ll love each other no matter what and we’ll be ready to fight the battle that any one of us has to fight until the end. I will forever be grateful for having been blessed with the best kind of people as my batchmates. Our differences in opinion, personality and taste (looks at Dial, haha) only make our bond all the more special and worth keeping. Thank you for never leaving my side when I needed you most, for feeling my pain while I was hurting, for laughing with me and at me, and for being one of the first who’ll never hesitate to protect me and even defend me. Thank you for being proud of me, for attentively listening to my stories and for being my number one fan(s) in everything that I do. You guys have served as my “stage moms” in the law school, I appreciate every single compliment, pangdudusta and kabalahuraans that we shared.

Our friendship made my joining our sorority more than worthwhile. The decisions and the sacrifices that I had to make and the challenges that I had to face are nothing compared to what I gained when I joined Regina Iustitiae. We have survived a lot and emerged victorious. We rise and rise and never fall.

The memories that we have made in those two years are more than enough to last a lifetime but I have no plans of stopping in collecting more. I know that I will grow old with you guys and if the time comes that I have my very own kids, I will proudly tell them that I have sisters like you whom I know will take care of them and love them unconditionally. (Open up na’to!)

You guys make me proud each day knowing that I found people with the same ideals and with the same aspirations. I love you batchies! Sorelle Insime (sisters forever) talaga. Alam ko umiiyak na si Dial kaya tatapusin ko na ang mahabang kamushy-han na’to. Rah-rah kung rah-rah pero walang tatalo sa Jelaiah!

P.S. Momsy, aren’t you proud of your kids? :P thank you for the tough lovin’ and for taking care of us in your own special and at times, very discreet way. Love you Momsy!

GROUP HUG na’to!

JELAIAH SORELLE INSIEME

2007

It Starts Now

So today is another beginning, a part of my string of beginnings. It starts normally but ends extraordinarily. Another “beginning” has ended, a lot of others will definitely surface but I am ready. Today is the day that I once again begin to be free. Today is the day that I will smile knowing that better things are to come. Beautiful things are coming my way, beautiful people are surrounding me. What more can a girl ask for?

It sometimes makes me sad, knowing that everything has expiration dates. Even forever is a prescriptive term right? When you look at people you meet along the way, there are those whom you know can only stay for a while but whom you would want to be there for as long as possible. You hold on to them, literally, with the hope that you can cheat destiny and make it believe that it’s only been seconds since that person has been given to you. But fate has a funny way of making you know that it’s time. You feel it, you try to ignore it and even try to justify it. Fate wins. Destiny wins.

For me, fate is a prelude to a decision… and I have finally decided. If letting go means having that person forever, then let it be. There may be no holding of hands; there may be no looking at each other’s eyes with the promise of forever, but a different promise remains. There is a silent vow that with certainty says, “Although the circumstances have changed, we still have each other’s backs.”

To love is one thing, but to genuinely care is another thing. There are no goodbyes but there are a thousand of hello’s that are needed to be uttered and felt. Love is not a noun, it’s a verb, a verb that not only acts but feels. Thank you. It was not good, it was perfect while it lasted.

Ana's Compilation

Aubs: Nasan si Boss Ces?

Ana: Ayun, inaakit pa ni Carlo.

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Ana: Sasama kaya si ______?

Euns: Bakit di mo isama si Carlo

Ana: Ayoko baka ma-awkward kami.

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