I don’t get it. Why do a lot of people believe that being romantic and being cynical are mutually exclusive? If we are to consult a dictionary, a cynic is defined as a person who “questions the goodness of things” while being romantic is defined as a state of doing things as an act of love. I don't see anything mutually exclusive about these definitions.
I must admit, for the past few years, I have swung like a pendulum from being cynical to being a hopeless romantic. Maybe because a number of times in my life, I was pushed to ask if loving someone is really worth the pain.
Now, looking back at the things that happened, I realized that I have evolved into achieving something close to an equilibrium. From being totally cynical to being totally romantic, I learned to become a romantic cynic. It may sound absurd or awkward but the truth is, this can be the most stable state that a person could achieve. Being romantically cynical is being “realistic”.
I still believe that love is worth all the hassle and misgivings that needs to be gone through but instead of daydreaming, I also know that in finding "the one" whom I will love for the rest of my life, I have to understand that I must first love myself.
I’m cynical, I don’t easily get hooked or I don’t jump at every opportunity to date guys. I question their intentions really well, I try to be as level-headed as possible and I try to be sensitive of what my heart feels all at the same time.
Romanticism and cynicism are not mutually exclusive terms and having a little of both in our lives will probably help us survive.
I must admit, for the past few years, I have swung like a pendulum from being cynical to being a hopeless romantic. Maybe because a number of times in my life, I was pushed to ask if loving someone is really worth the pain.
Now, looking back at the things that happened, I realized that I have evolved into achieving something close to an equilibrium. From being totally cynical to being totally romantic, I learned to become a romantic cynic. It may sound absurd or awkward but the truth is, this can be the most stable state that a person could achieve. Being romantically cynical is being “realistic”.
I still believe that love is worth all the hassle and misgivings that needs to be gone through but instead of daydreaming, I also know that in finding "the one" whom I will love for the rest of my life, I have to understand that I must first love myself.
I’m cynical, I don’t easily get hooked or I don’t jump at every opportunity to date guys. I question their intentions really well, I try to be as level-headed as possible and I try to be sensitive of what my heart feels all at the same time.
Romanticism and cynicism are not mutually exclusive terms and having a little of both in our lives will probably help us survive.
